Verse 1
Finally everything is up and running as it should so i can let that go, hurray!
Verse 2
Something i commented on in a friends blogg the other day got me thinking about honesty or perhaps more about being forthright.
I find that there are often occasions when you are either being asked to comment or feel that you should on something but refrain from doing so. Most likely you will do as most people do and resort to something pointless and harmless just to be safe.
I think you can imagine where i am going with this but i will give some examples.
Picture the following situation with you and a friend.
- Your friend call you one afternoon, he/she have obviously been drinking and for the 3rd day straight.
Do you say: I seriously think you need to stop drinking and seek help.
Do you say: Hey! Don't drink it all, save some for me.
- A friend invites you to dinner with their husband/wife/partner, a person that you find intolerable for good reasons.
Do you say: No thanks, i can't stand your husband/wife/partner.
Do you say: I wish i could but i need to do the dishes.
- Your friend ask for your opinion on a new hairstyle, piece of clothing, wallpaper, car or something similar.
Do you say: I am very sorry but i think that you made a bad choice here, do you have the receipt?
Do you say: Hmm ok, were there other colors?
There are of course times when the unvarnished truth is hurtful or inappropriate and there are unspoken conventions on how people should act towards each other. I will agree that we need to exercise caution how we behave but i am here interested in all the times when we sugarcoat and express feelings not our own needlessly from an exaggerated fear of risking the friendship.
Would the friendship in truth be in jeopardy from honesty, if both were real?
I believe and desire to be forthright with a firm faith in the fact that you can be honest without being offensive or insensitive. As anyone can tell you, i fail a times but i hold that my intentions are good.
Before anyone else does it i will also say that i will at times be both offensive and seemingly insensitive on purpose.
My contention is that we should endeavour to be forthright without being willfully careless. But also that we do away with the veneer of deceit implicit in a carefully constructed half truth.